tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1863554872321330259.post5709013542421558423..comments2023-05-02T03:25:43.143-06:00Comments on Blessings Like Winged Horses: The Ubiquitous MessageSarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05220448315369951650noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1863554872321330259.post-57498296441240397892012-07-11T21:33:29.090-06:002012-07-11T21:33:29.090-06:00"Follow your dreams" sounds so Disney to..."Follow your dreams" sounds so Disney to me, starry-eyed diva princess, unrealistic, selfish, and ego-centric. So often "follow your dreams" comes off as a blatant American mantra to go after what you want, no matter who is in the way or what the cost to self and others. On the flip, we are fed a constant diet of "follow your dreams and they WILL come true." But they do not all come true. For some, a few might.<br /><br />I say this as a dreamer. <br /><br />If I'd followed my "dreams" of long ago, my life would look very different, and not in a good way. There are places I could not force my dreams to fruition. There are places along the way the dreams shattered, and with them, my heart. Over and over. I stopped dreaming for a time, and even now, it is a tentative exercise. <br /><br />I have felt at times, like a small child, creeping into His presence, with rags for dreams, wanting so badly for Him to bless them, not realizing how much more He had in store.<br /><br />What has replaced those broken, tattered pieces is so much better! Adventure with Him, holding tightly (and being held) in the hurt places, tasting His goodness, and a new joy in the journey. <br /><br />Oh, the beauty of the day He invited my to release my broken pieces and dream new dreams, together! No promises of them becoming reality, just dreaming together. Some silly. Most unrealistic. Others very tangible. And eventually, turning toward others. Dreaming blessings on those dear friends and family I call my own. How rich those dreams are, even today!<br /><br />Many dreams have been released. Some have fallen, probably to not be picked up again. Others still flit around in my heart and head. If and when they are to become reality, they will be tested, as so much of life, against His will.<br /><br />I am, honestly, tired of dreaming my own dreams, of chasing them, and wearing myself thin in their pursuit, only to find something better was waiting in the wings, as His plan and dream and will.<br /><br />Does that mean we do not take steps to follow this dream or that? No. Does it mean we do not pursue something shrouded in fog, but we know to be from Him? No. But when we place our dreams in front of Him instead of Him in front of our dreams, reality gets skewed. We dream, pray, take a step, dream some more, pray some more, continually listening to and for Him. It's Ignatian, really. We are the ones who muddy the waters and impress our cultural, American can-do biases on Him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1863554872321330259.post-71236066032622805842012-07-10T15:39:54.354-06:002012-07-10T15:39:54.354-06:00Dear friend,
I'm struggling to put my respons...Dear friend,<br /><br />I'm struggling to put my response into words, but what you're saying makes a lot of sense to me, and in my roundabout way, the following will appear to NOT support what you're saying, but it does in my brain.<br /><br />I know that throughout grad school (and even after--I just got the question of "Then why did you get a Ph.D. in history?" again just the other day) there was a definite dream that I was supposed to be fulfilling according to those around me. After all, it didn't make sense to go through <i>that</i> if I wasn't going to do x.<br /><br />And, of course, from other quarters I have heard other "should" voices that are only silenced by the news of God's definite call or some strong dream that I'm following.<br /><br />In other words, I guess, people assume that you should follow your dreams, but that certain dreams dictate certain actions (e.g., going to grad school to become a professor), and those actions are proof positive of what your dreams are. Then there are the generic dreams of spouse, house, kids, pets, success, etc. Based on age, gender, and marital status, people also assume they know those dreams. You're not only supposed to follow your supposedly unique dreams to give our unique gift to the world, but also supposed to follow those cultural dreams. If you're not happy, then you must not be following some dream fully.<br /><br />So, yes, I think you're hearing the message correctly. <br /><br />Love you and can't wait to see you!<br />StephStephanie Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13309306228755574927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1863554872321330259.post-18091158114293376912012-07-04T14:28:43.689-06:002012-07-04T14:28:43.689-06:00I really love that you're opening up this disc...I really love that you're opening up this discussion and exploration. I can feel you peeling back layers and saying, "What's really going on here? And can we really believe this?"<br /><br />I was having a conversation with someone last night about the language of "dreams" and "calling." I still want to set aside any kind of answer to the question about whether every single person is called to a specific thing or not from my comment on your last post (since I still don't know what I think about that) and just relay an interesting part of the conversation I had last night. <br /><br />We talked about how dreams can be often spoken of in the language of "follow your heart" or "be who you really are." But sometimes we don't know our hearts or who we really are. And sometimes we *think* we know our hearts and who we really are, but we really don't. <br /><br />Enter a conversation about the false self and the true self. <br /><br />Calling, this friend said to me, strikes her as something that comes from outside the self. It's connected to God and what God thinks or has in mind. It's less about originating in ourselves and more about connecting to God and tuning into God's ideas. <br /><br />And then trusting that if a calling is there, the way forward and means to get there will present themselves. <br /><br />But again, I don't know if every person is called to some specific thing. I know that I have received a strong sense of calling over the last 3-4 years, and it continues to grow in clarity, but if that call had never happened, I'd still be doing what I've always done my whole life: trying to figure out what to do with my life and my time based on what I seem gifted to do and what I enjoy doing and how those things tie in to the very real and practical realities of my life and circumstances. And knowing that the choices I make about those things could and most likely would change over time, as my circumstances and opportunities changed. (There's that ongoing discernment thread again!)<br /><br />I really hear what you're saying about the negative underbelly of all this. There's some adjacent threat in there that goes alongside buying into a particular view of dreams/calling/what to do with our lives. I've been bumping up against this threat in the rhythmed life series on Still Forming. While I choose to live my life that way, I keep reminding myself (and hopefully others too) that it's just one choice of a way to live. It's not for everyone. But it works well for me. And the specific rhythms I choose for myself aren't for everyone else, either. They'll have their own rhythms based on their own life circumstances and freedoms of choice.christiannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06278757714101308785noreply@blogger.com